Sam Thompson, the 33-year-old television presenter and former Made In Chelsea star, has shared a candid look at how he manages his ADHD, shedding light on the ways his girlfriend, Talitha Balinska, has become an essential part of keeping him grounded in his daily life. The insight comes after Thompson, who was diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder and autism in 2023, revealed that maintaining focus—especially during personal conversations—can sometimes be a real challenge.
Thompson began dating Talitha, a DJ and social media influencer, in September, and he spoke openly to the Daily Mail about how his relationship has evolved as he navigates the complexities of ADHD. “I love her very much, but my ADHD means I can drift off in conversations,” he admitted. “There are times when I’m not fully locked in, and that can be frustrating for both of us.”
The presenter’s openness about the condition comes as part of his broader effort to raise awareness. Earlier this year, he released a children’s book, You, Me and ADHD, aimed at helping young fans understand and cope with similar experiences. The book, Thompson says, reflects his own journey growing up with ADHD and autism, offering practical guidance on handling school, social media, and overstimulation in everyday life.
The Three-Question Rule: Staying Present in Relationships
Sam described one of the techniques he now employs to stay engaged with Talitha, calling it his “three-question rule.” “If I feel myself drifting away in a conversation, whether because a dog barks outside or a siren goes by, I immediately check in by asking three thoughtful questions,” he explained. “It’s a way to show that even if my mind wandered, I’m still present and listening.” He admits that the method doesn’t always make him perfect, but it allows him to demonstrate care and attention despite the challenges of ADHD.
Thompson also highlighted the importance of openly communicating his struggles. “I tell people when I’m having trouble concentrating, and that simple honesty changes the dynamic of the conversation,” he said. “People are more understanding and patient when you speak about your difficulties instead of hiding them. That’s been a big lesson for me.”
Family Support and Understanding
Reflecting on his early life, Thompson recalled that ADHD was not widely recognised during his childhood. His parents, at times, dismissed his difficulties, while his sister Louise expressed frustration at his inability to sit still during family meals. “When I got my diagnosis, my sister tearfully apologised,” Thompson said. “It was a powerful moment, showing how understanding can grow with knowledge.”
Thompson credited his mother as well for learning alongside him. “I know she’ll read this book, and it’s amazing to see how much she’s understood,” he said. These early experiences with family taught Thompson that support networks are vital for anyone navigating ADHD.
The Role of Friends: Pete Wicks’ Constant Support
Beyond family, Thompson praised his close friendship with Pete Wicks, which has been a source of unwavering support since 2017. The two co-host the Staying Relevant podcast and have spent countless hours together both on and off camera. “Pete has always known who I am and what I need, and he doesn’t judge me for anything—even when I’m annoying,” Thompson said. He emphasized that Pete’s experience with neurodiversity in his own family has made him particularly sensitive and understanding, a quality that has strengthened their friendship over the years.
Thompson described Pete as someone who can immediately detect when he’s masking his ADHD or not being fully himself. “He’ll say, ‘You’re not being yourself,’ or notice when I’m trying too hard in social situations. And he’s always right. It’s invaluable to have that kind of friend,” he added.
Writing You, Me and ADHD: A Personal Mission
The children’s book represents a culmination of Thompson’s personal and professional efforts to normalize ADHD discussions. He spoke candidly about his initial nervousness: “I didn’t want to say the wrong thing. I’ve met so many young people with ADHD, and their trust matters. It’s a responsibility, and I was nervous about misrepresenting it.”
Through the book, he offers tips for navigating everyday challenges, from handling schoolwork to coping with overstimulation. He described it as a “how-to guide for a mini version of me,” a way to pass on strategies he wishes he had as a child. “By the end, I hope kids can understand themselves better and feel more confident in their own experiences,” he said. Thompson became emotional while recording the audiobook version, reflecting on his younger self and the guidance he wished he’d received.
ADHD Explained: Understanding the Condition
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is a behavioural condition marked by inattentiveness, hyperactivity, and impulsivity. It affects around five percent of children in the U.S., with 3.6 percent of boys and 0.85 percent of girls in the UK affected. Symptoms often appear in early childhood and may include fidgeting, poor concentration, impulsive behavior, difficulty following instructions, mood swings, forgetfulness, and organizational challenges.
While the precise causes are not fully understood, genetics play a significant role, and environmental factors—such as premature birth or neurological conditions—may increase risk. ADHD is also linked to conditions like anxiety, depression, insomnia, Tourette’s syndrome, and epilepsy. There is no cure, but a combination of medication and therapy often helps manage symptoms effectively, allowing individuals to function more comfortably in daily life.
Public Impact and Advocacy
Sam Thompson’s openness about ADHD not only sheds light on his personal experiences but also contributes to wider public understanding of neurodiversity. By sharing the practical strategies he uses with Talitha, Thompson offers a relatable example for others navigating similar challenges in their relationships.
His efforts are part of a broader commitment to advocacy, emphasizing that neurodiverse individuals can lead fulfilling lives with the right support systems in place. Through his book, public speaking, and media appearances, Thompson is helping destigmatize ADHD and offering guidance to families, friends, and educators.
Looking Ahead
As Thompson continues to balance public life, creative projects, and personal relationships, his story serves as a reminder of the importance of empathy, patience, and communication. Whether navigating a romantic relationship, friendships, or professional collaborations, his strategies illustrate how ADHD can be managed without compromising meaningful connections.
With You, Me and ADHD now available, Thompson hopes to reach even more young people who may feel overlooked or misunderstood. His transparency and practical advice offer hope to children and teens, and his partnership with Talitha demonstrates how understanding and support can make all the difference in navigating the complexities of ADHD in daily life.
